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You Can Do More Than You Think

Sometimes life throws situations at us that we think we can’t handle, but we can achieve more than we think. My son was unfairly dismissed by his employer. We couldn’t afford a lawyer to represent him, but someone had to if he was going to get justice. The only person willing to do it was me.

Anyone who knows me can tell you I am a very shy person. Even in small groups I say very little until I know people very well. Standing up and speaking in public is something that completely terrifies me and I will avoid it at all costs. This was the scariest thing I had ever contemplated. I often don’t stand up for myself as much as I should. However if someone does something to one of my children then watch out. I am like a lioness defending her cubs. I will fight for those I love even when I won’t fight for myself.

Having dyspraxia I can often appear scatter brained   because I am  unorganised  and often lose things. I have also found people equate being quiet with being stupid. My dyspraxia means I am often challenged in many areas of my life, but I am definitely not stupid. There was more to this task then just going into court and speaking. I had to prepare all the evidence into a case and then write questions to present this evidence. It was a huge task and there was a lot at stake. If someone had asked me 2 years ago if I could do this I would have said no. However I not only did it but we  won the case. The commissioner said she could see I had put my heart and soul into it.

The most difficult thing was giving my evidence. I was representing my son as well as being a witness. I could not ask myself questions. It isn’t permissible to read your evidence so I had to just say my evidence from the top of my head. I especially struggle with talking and thinking on the spot ,so it was quite a challenge. I have no doubt if I didn’t have dyspraxia I would have done it better but I could only do my best. The other thing that was difficult was cross-examination. In order to know what to ask a witnesses, I had to listen and take notes while they gave their evidence. Listening and taking notes is something I struggle with due to my poor working memory. I had to concentrate very hard , which was very tiring and made my head hurt

Never ever give up. Dyspraxia can damage your confidence because so many things can be more challenging for us than the average person. However we are not stupid. In fact most people with dyspraxia are of average or above average intelligence. Sometimes we can take a little longer because of the way our brain is wired. However the feeling of achievement when we succeed is immense. Unfortunately my son’s ex boss has appealed the decision so we must return to court. At least this time I know I can do it.

 

 

Sharon Beaumont

I am a single mother of 4 who has lived with dyspraxia for several decades. My hope is that by sharing my experiences I can help to raise awareness of dyspraxia. I trained as an Education Assistant but found some areas of this to be a difficult career if you have dyspraxia. Currently I am an Information Technology Student and am trying to teach my self to speak French. I love travel, writing and anything French.

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